“I’m Fine” … are you really?
If you heard 100 people between the ages of 16 and 26 say “I’m fine”, how many would you believe? Those words are used so often as a smoke-screen for not being fine that we just don’t believe them anymore.
I wonder what keeps that person from being fine. And why do they lie about it? It’s usually that they are not feeling good about themselves. They have low self-esteem. They don’t have the confidence to stand-up and be themselves. They give-up or give-in.
They do what someone else wants them to do. They stay when they should go. They say yes when they should say no. They desperately hope they will make the other person like them. But it doesn’t work. And an endless spiral begins to suck them lower.
What would happen if more people in those critical “life-forming” years were strong and stood up for themselves and didn’t give-in to the control and manipulation of others? If they had boldness and put their energy into things they were passionate about?
Could we break the cycle of abuse in at least some families? Why does a person abuse another person? Is that how they get to feel good about themselves? Why do people do drugs? Because it makes them feel good (about themselves) when they don’t feel good without them.
What if we worked hard to help kids grow up feeling good about themselves just because they could? Just because they were fine being whomever they were? If they felt good about themselves without making someone else feel bad., without doing drugs, without hurting someone else or hurting themselves … WOW …
What do you think?
Filed under: Accepting, Be True to Yourself, Self Confidence